Keep doing your japam with all your heart. It is good idea to look upon Sri Ramakrishna as your real Mother. In reality, he and the Cosmic Mother Kali are one and the same. He himself is the Gayatri, the Saviour. Look upon him the way you like best. The purest and sweetest relationship is that of mother and child. This stimulates meditation and also helps you make quick progress.
(p.232. Letters for Spiritual Seekers, Swami Shivananda’s letter from Bangalore Ashrama on 3 Oct, 1924.)
Keep calling on him. He will then grant you his grace. Prayer is essential. Earnestly beg for faith, love, and devotion. You will get love in your heart for this. If, by his grace, some love grows in your heart, the mind will then get attached to him. Love is like glue. You will have that love, I assure you. Don’t lose heart. Sri Ramakrishna is a living God. He is always alert. He is like a blazing fire. He is an Incarnation of God, and is the inmost being of all. He is also your inmost being. He is the life of your life, the presiding deity of your consciousness. Try to repeat his name and pray to him regularly, as best you can. That will be enough for you to attract his grace. His grace is there already, only you are not aware of it.
(p.268, Letters for Spiritual Seekers, Swami Shivananda’s letter from Ootacamund on 3 Oct,1926.)